Honesty or Being Rude?

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Here’s my opinion on honesty… or being rude to someone who are “super sensitive”. Let’s be honest; no one is honest, because they can’t handle it. Even for me, I couldn’t handle honesty. In fact, it hurts to hear the truth from people because I thought no one would like me. Then, I learned that they even cared enough to help me to grow, or at least that’s what I thought. Therefore, I started to embrace honesty. There’s no time to waste when it comes to honesty, there’s not a lot of energy necessary, but that being honest takes a lot of courage and work, Of course, there’s a way of being honest. There’s a tone of voice, body language, and words used to be honest. However, for those who lie are 10 times worse!

There’s a lot of thinking when it comes to lying; things to make up, maneuvering, and a lot of creativity. You might as well write a fiction story. Now, for those who think honesty is being rude, well then, you’re either extra sensitive, or someone who doesn’t know how to say what they feel properly. Instead of saying “You’re ugly,” which is rude, you can say… well, nothing at all because it’s not kind at all. Saying “Move!” instead of “excuse me” is rude. Oh, here’s my favorite: “You’re fat” instead of “you need to lose some weight” is rude. Well, it’s rude to someone you don’t know when you tell them that they need to lose weight but it’s better than “You’re fat.” I must admit, when people tell me that I need to lose weight, I get offended. But, if someone calls me fat without sounding genuine about it, I get REALLY upset. That’s just rude!

Take dating, for instance. If you’re not attracted to the other person, please save time and energy, and let them know you’re not interested. Don’t make stuff up, don’t run away, and don’t be rude about it. If you still don’t understand, here’s an example: a guy walks up to a pretty girl, and he asks her out. Instead of, “I’m not interested, but thank you,” or “I’m sorry but I have a boyfriend,” she tells the guy, “Ew, no!” or “You know what, I’d love to, but I have to help my mom with something.” That’s just bad, and rude. And guys, yes you, do the same thing. No, it’s not worst, it’s the same level. What’s worse is when you walk away from the girl without saying anything at all. Talk about rude, eh?

Anyway, for guys and girls, please do each other a favor, and just be honest. If the other party finds it offensive, it’s their problem, not yours, remember that. We all have the fear of rejection and losing people. So, most of us do whatever it takes to keep people around.
Let’s be honest here; if you’re afraid of losing people, trust me, you’ve lost them. Therefore, all that energy you used for not being honest was a waste. I’m not trying to be rude, I’m being honest. At least I’m not calling you ugly, or fat, or piece of… well, you know. All those statements aren’t true. I mean, I don’t even know any of you reading this. I will tell you this much though, I like being honest. It saves me time and energy. If I were to make stuff up, I’ll just write a book. Simple. Period. End of story.

I’ll be very honest with you. Like I said before, I was super sensitive. Now, I’m still sensitive, but I’m willing to be open about honest opinions. For those who knew me, and believed that gave their honest opinion, here’s my honest question: did you believe that your opinion is effective to my growth? Or did you give your opinion to make yourself feel better? Even better; what’s your honesty on yourself? Have you taken the time to reflect on yourself? If not, then why tell me your honest opinion?

Remember, being honest doesn’t mean you’re rude. But being rude doesn’t mean you’re honest, either. And you can be as honest as you can be, but if people take it as rude, well then, they can’t handle the truth.

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